July 2012
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Disciple by Mindy Nettifee
bangstheory: [moderate trigger warning: descriptions child sexual abuse, rape, self-harm, violence against children, religious abuse] The best advice I ever got about how to heal came from a beleaguered camp counselor who found herself suddenly surrounded by a flock of heaving sobbing twelve year old girls. It had been billed as a session on conflict resolution, an alternative to wood cookie...
Jul 30th
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Reason #117: Okay. Let's talk about prescriptivism
[moderate trigger warning: prescriptivism, possible ableism, sexual abuse, suicide] A couple of months ago a friend of mine (let’s call them Sky), who runs a relatively visible blog on their experience with sexual abuse, posted about how they were feeling suicidal. Shortly after this, Sky’s post was picked up by someone on tumblr and it was reblogged several dozen times. They ended up...
Jul 27th
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Anonymous asked: Based on the anon before me, how do you feel about Lolita? What is your understanding of its interpretation and the debate over Lo's precociousness? Do you believe it should be banned?
Jul 26th
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Anonymous asked: How do you feel about consensual role-play around themes such as Lolita?
Jul 26th
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Reason #116: Death is not easy
[trigger warning: child sexual abuse, murder, mention of suicide, food issues] What are you looking at? What are you waiting for? You make me sick— You damn hypocrites make me sick! Everybody knew she was in trouble, but we didn’t do anything. All you good people. You want to know who killed Laura? You did. We all did and pretty words aren’t gonna bring her back man, so save your prayers!...
Jul 26th
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Anonymous asked: I need to talk to you so badly about something that's been confusing me for a long time.
Jul 13th
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unhappyandme asked: Did you ever doubt you deserved credit for your strength? Like it's a common thing, being strong, and you shouldn't feel good about yourself for feeling strong in a situation that required it? I have felt that way alot.
Jul 13th
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Reason #115: Where does my strength come from?
[general trigger warning: child sexual abuse. nothing particularly heavy in this post] This is something I’ve been trying to figure out. Like it is honestly a puzzle. I don’t know why I am so “strong”, as other people like to say. Most days, I feel like I am a big blob of messes, and that the only way I survive is through sheer accident and a long run of good luck which I...
Jul 13th
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Reason #114: Sad Elle
[trigger warning: rape jokes, incest, child sexual abuse, suicidal thoughts, dissociative language, transmisogyny, anti trans woman slurs] The same day that I came out to tons of people on Facebook, I went to a party at a friend’s house. I struggled beforehand with the age-old survivor question: “do I want to be around people, or do I really just want to be left alone?” For the...
Jul 5th
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Reason #113: A double coming out
[general content on sexual abuse, trans identities] Three weeks ago, I realized that the person I’ve been has been dead— that I am no longer Chungyen, but Elle. At first it was so incredibly painful that for a few days, I was physically sick. This part of me that I’d always thought existed was just gone. I’d been pretending, maybe hoping, that it was still there. After...
Jul 3rd
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“It’s okay to still be sad. You’re mourning the loss of a child. That’s horrible.”
– A friend of mine, after my survivor funeral (via fromonesurvivortoanother) Even a few words can mean a lot.
Jul 2nd
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