March 2012
4 posts
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Reason #102: I can't do piercings or tattoos
[general trigger warning: child sexual abuse, sexual abuse, body dysphoria?]
I don’t know why I haven’t talked about this until now, because it seems to come up every time I am with my friends.
I absolutely cannot do piercings or tattoos. Like the problem I have with doctors and especially operations, the idea of losing control over my body or having something done to my body is just...
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Reason #101: a dream i have
[general trigger warning: sexual abuse]
I’ve been avoiding therapy for awhile now, but I finally got myself to go back today. It was kind of a big mess, but there was one thing that stood out.
My therapist asked me, “what would healing, or getting to an acceptable point in your healing, look like?”
And the very first thing I thought of was:
“I’d be able to have...
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Reason #100: Progress is not linear
[general mild trigger warning: child sexual abuse, ptsd, possible triggers related to judicial processes]
Whether it’s implied or openly stated, I think a lot of us face this pressure to “heal” and “get better” in this perfect linear progression upwards where we are constantly improving over time. The problem, of course, is that healing from trauma is almost never...
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Reason # 99: I no longer believe in non-violence...
[trigger warning: child sexual abuse and rape, talk of racism and violence against people of color, victim blaming]
I’ve been thinking a lot about survivors’ rights lately. It’s not totally accurate to say that we “earn” certain rights or privileges, because these things happen not because we want them to; they happen to us. We don’t cause it. But I do think...
