More Reasons You Shouldn't Fuck Kids

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July 2011

26 posts

Reason #60: It's okay to fall apart a little

From Reasons You Shouldn’t Fuck Kids: I was talking to my mom last night about the debacle that is my fucking life right now, and she commented on how sad I sounded. I started to explain that I had been having trouble sleeping now that I am in a room by myself, and how I have been getting about five hours of sleep a night, and how this level of tiredness is probably affecting the rest...

The Recovered Memory Project

The Recovered Memory Project collects and disseminates information relevant to the debate over this question. This debate has focused on recovered memories of childhood sexual abuse. But the phenomenon extends to other traumas, such as suffering physical abuse or witnessing a murder. Almost everyone would agree that such traumas are normally remembered. That is, most people who experience such...

Reason #59: Having PTSD, years after the fact...

In my Family Relations class, we finally got to the chapter about child abuse and child sexual abuse. The teacher is a wonderful lesbian feminist and professional therapist, and so she treated the topic with a lot of care and passion. But it was still weird to sit there in that room, knowing that I belonged to this group of people who have been fucked as kids, while she talked about what sexual...

Scarlet Beads: If You Are Healing From Sexual... →

reclaimyourvoice: If you healing from sexual assault and you get out of bed in the morning, You are doing well. If you healing from sexual assault and you hold down a job, You are amazing. If you are healing from sexual assault and you are still remotely pleasant to others, You are a lot nicer than me. If you are healing from sexual assault and you cannot always be there for a friend, You...

Reason #58: Family Tree assignments

In my Family Relations class, one of our final assignments is to construct a family tree. I am required to at least have three generations— myself, my parents, and my grandparents. I do not know my grandparents. I have never been able to meet them, since we have been poor and in the United States, while they live in Taiwan. So, in order to complete these assignment and get the information...

sigmadeltaepsilon asked: I'm new to Tumblr, and yet yours was one of the first I found. I read the entire thing over the last few days. I'm sort of recovering from that... but I wrote this, in a way for you, in a way for everyone. This is why people tell you you are strong when you feel weak.
(oh, ok I guess I can't leave you a link... it's on my tumblr page, called: Appearances Are...

Just Three Words: Appearances Are Deceiving →

sigmadeltaepsilon: An experiment in understanding. Two people; similar height, similar weight, similar build. All things considered, they appear comparable in ability and strength. Each person is given identical packs, and told they must wear these packs at all times. They can not put it down nor they can not have someone carry it for them. They are responsible for carrying this burden. ...

Reason #57: The Survivor as Warrior

I was looking back at Andrea Dworkin’s absolutely amazing speech on rape, and how it is a war on women. But maybe this is also a war on men and women, on all human beings. The greatest war to be fought is not against some enemy in a country across the ocean. The greatest war is not against terrorism, against poverty, against racism, or homophobia, or hunger. No. These are things that everyone...

Panic/anxiety and Sexual abuse

yousetyourlimits: So I saw my therapist today and we talked for almost two hours. I felt bad because she had other people waiting but she said what we were discussing was more important. Basically I just asked her ways I can help calm down during an anxiety/panic attack. She gave me homework, she told me to make a toolbox. This toolbox would contain things that relax me and I could go to...

a girl who knows: Please if there's anyone out... →

agirlwhoknows: If there’s anyone out there that has been abused by their teacher like me.. Or their coach, or something.. I would so much like to talk to you. I feel so alone. All I want is to talk to someone who really understands. We don’t have support groups here, and my kind of abuse seems so weird and…

Anonymous asked: Thank you for this page, my girlfriend had been molested when he was younger, and I want to understand as much as I can about what he's been through, and what anyone else in a similar position has been through. I know he feels alone, so I want to help him know that I'm there for him, and trying to do all I can for him, whether as help or as just accommodating his needs.

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Let's dig a hole in the sand, brother.: an... →

youarenotyou: i-sauntered-vaguely-downwards: hupsoonheng: “well i’m [part of marginalized group being attacked/offended by thing] and i’m not offended!” good for you! you drank so much fucking kool-aid you became the kool-aid guy. like everybody else you were raised to buy into the bullshit. if this was the matrix, you’d still be a plugged-in battery for your robot overlords while the...

Reason #56: no sick days for me

**This post is very triggering, and I apologize for that. But I won’t apologize for being angry. So I am very sick. It is the kind of summer cold that kind of sneaks up on you. I didn’t even notice it until suddenly my entire body started feeling very creaky and hurty. And now I definitely have a fever. The world is very warm. For basically everyone in this world, the idea of being sick— of...

Reblog if you are a FEMINIST blog!

feministblackboard: Yeah! A great way to find new blogs to follow. :) If you care that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men are sexually abused or raped, then you are a feminist. If you want to understand why these things happen, you have to look at our social constructions of gender and how they inherently devalue women, men, and everyone in between.

"Queers Read This" →

Replace every queer person in this piece with a person who has survived sexual abuse. Same story. Maybe a little different, but almost exactly the same. iaccidentallythepatriarchy: I had to read the below for a class three years ago. The article is as old as I am, but it’s still very relevant for all discussions on oppression. Enjoy! QUEERS READ THIS - I HATE STRAIGHTS I have friends. Some...

Reason #55: I'm the hero of this story

This person is also a hero. You are a hero for being here. If you’ve been following this blog for awhile, you may have noticed that five months ago, I posted about restarting therapy with a new counselor at my school. I had a couple of posts about those meetings, but then they just stopped. That’s not because I’ve continued therapy and just haven’t had anything good to...

The Pervocracy: The People You Meet When You Write... →

I’ve already met some of these people before, although only a few. The title of this should be “The People You Meet When You SPEAK About Rape”. Definitely a trigger warning here.

waronxmas asked: I think you have a lot of really important things to say and I'm glad this blog exists.

Smile if you're a gangsta.: Dear Chicago,I was... →

fiestacolours: Dear Chicago, I was walking through your airport a few weeks ago when I saw a poster that really struck a chord in my soul. It said “No one should have to witness the sexual abuse of children” with a teddy bear sitting on a shelf in a pink room, looking on with tears in its eyes. I actually stopped and said, “Oh, wow.” I couldnt move, glued to the spot. I was to give a...

I have created my own advice page. Feel free to... →

I have a pretty long laundry list of junk/experiences in my life, so I figured I could help answer some questions for people who need it. You can do it anonymously, of course. http://from1survivor2another.tumblr.com/ edit: it’s now http://fromonesurvivortoanother.tumblr.com/ I replaced my primary that was being neglected/unused.

Just updated the List of Reasons for this blog.

If you are new to this blog, it might help to start here. Reasons that I especially like (dislike? hate?) are marked with asterisks. This blog is going to reach 200 followers in a fraction of the time it took to get to 100. It’s an amazing thing to see. Currently at 152 153. ♥

Reason #54: Our nameless bodies

This summer, I’ve been taking one of the required classes for my Women & Gender Studies major— Family Relations. It’s a surprisingly awesome class, both the people and the content. The teacher is a radical lesbian feminist also, and she is so amazing. This is a class about families, however— functional and dysfunctional, good and bad. So yesterday, we finally wandered...

Anonymous asked: "When people are hurt this much, they develop ways to defend their hearts and minds; it’s really hard to break out of that."

That is what you wrote in a post. I have been searching for a way to explain to my boyfriend why I am this way. That quote is going to help me so much. Thank you, thank you <3

[trigger warning: child sexual abuse, child pornography/pedophilia] At my writing advance/retreat/workshop last week, we were assigned the task of writing some kind of short memoir piece. A few days later, we shared our stories— one person talked about the family that lived next door to them, and another person talked about fear and self worth. But there was one person there—...

Just came out to a room full of strangers, and it was completely terrifying. But necessary.

Anonymous asked: I've pondered just what exactly I could say to you through your ask inbox. I went through your whole entire blog and found myself balling my eyes out. You see, I too was sexually abused by my older brother through my childhood off and on until my mid-teen years. The realizations, the memories, and the tears that were triggered throughout your blog has instilled such courage within me to want...