More Reasons You Shouldn't Fuck Kids

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June 2011

21 posts

Reason #52: Afraid of words

[general trigger warning: child sexual abuse] Tomorrow, I am leaving for a week to go to a writing retreat. It’s for five days at a nice little school in the middle of the woods. I am not worried about strangers; I know most of the people who will be there. What scares me is that I will have to write. I know that is a silly thing to say. Me, the English major. Me, the writing TA and the...

Reason #51: despicable, incredible, terrible,...

Sometimes, I have a very, very low tolerance for bullshit. Maybe it’s because my brother and my mother taught me that you can say one thing, but actually mean the other. Or maybe it’s because i’ve learned that sometimes, people just want what they want and they’ll do whatever they need to get it. I think that people who have been sexually abused have much better bullshit...

New Layout, and Elephants

The old layout was feeling a bit messy, so I switched over to this one. I was really enamored by its name— “The Elephant in the Room”. I mean, since this site is about the elephant in the room, the problem that no one wants to talk about or even admit exists, even when it is incredibly obvious. I made a few custom tweaks with the layout to get it working the way I wanted....

A never ending chain of fucked up events #2

Submitted by anonymousgirl15: I discussed how I had an eating disorder and anxiety possibly as a result of my abuse. But I forgot to say that my brother, also a victim of abuse also had an eating disorder. The exact same thing. Through this we bonded and I completely forgive him for everything. I am happy to say we are now best friends. I understand that it really wasn’t his fault. However...

Being fucked as a child once can set up a chain of...

Submitted by anonymousgirl15: When I was younger, I was abused by my older brother. Obviously, I looked up to him and loved him. I could not process or understand what happened. I thought maybe it was my fault and I was just too stupid to say anything. I didn’t tell anyone anything for eight years. I kept it all in. I had become a monster. A perfectionist with a hint of anxiety and a whole...

Anonymous asked: Keep being brave enough to share your experience and try to do something about this, it's helping us all.

i really, really hate rape jokes.

I do. Anytime a person makes a joke about another group of people, it’s under the assumption that someone of that group is not actually present, or that someone present doesn’t know someone of said group. Of course, you can’t exactly do that with 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men being survivors of sexual abuse— especially not on the internet. So you end up hurting a lot more...

Reason #50: Victim Complexes →

from-the-bottom-of-our-hearts: There’s this blog, that I really deeply admire & this is an entry that I’m writing for it. www.morereasonsyoushouldntfuckkids.tumblr.com & this is my reason. Victim Complexes I feel safe to say that, for the most part, I’ve dealt with my abuse. But whenever I’m getting to know someone new & I debate about telling them or not, I find myself...

Reason #49: Not being able to cry for years

Today, someone left a message in my ask box about not being able to cry about their sexual abuse, much less talk about it. When I was little, I was super sensitive. I mean, I cried at basically everything. But then people made fun of that, my family told me to stop, and I quickly realized that crying is something bad— something to be ashamed of. I spent years, and I mean years, not being...

Anonymous asked: I haven't been able to cry about it, much less talk. You are so brave to write about it.

un-dynamic asked: so i wrote a reason for you today, but now i don't know if i have it in me to type it up & send it to you.

antique-beast asked: Hi, I just wanted to check if it's alright I feature your post in full on my blog tumblinfeminist.tumblr.com
I will link back to you and credit you- but I didn't want to do a direct copy and paste without asking.

http://morereasonsyoushouldntfuckkids.tumblr.com/post/4471887172/why-you-should-be-a-feminist-especially-if-you-are-a

:) It's a great...

duuuudesaywhat-deactivated20120 asked: You know;
you're amazing.

I mean it.

These blogs are...well, they're amazing.

The one about ants had me tearing up. I'm such a crybaby.

Following.

Reason #48: The Dark Passenger inside of us

You know how no matter what you do or what you say on Facebook, someone always manages to get into an argument with you? There should be some kind of rule for that, like a law of the universe that says when X number of people are crammed into one place for long enough, they will eventually find something to fight about. Once, I got into an argument with a friend (a woman) about whether or not...

I just want to thank you for making this blog. My abuse happened over many years, and I am still struggling to find the words to relate what happened to me. You give me a voice when I can’t seem to find mine. So many of your posts express what I want to say but can’t seem to formulate. I’m struggling with abuse dealt with from different people, and each takes on a different...

Reason #47: The missing "why" questions

Ever since I was little, I’ve had problems with my skin— sometimes, my skin breaks out in itchy hives. Other times, it becomes really dry and flaky. The doctors told me that it was Eczema, which in translation means “your skin is fucked up and there isn’t really any reason or solution. Sorry.” I spent a lot of my childhood knowing that I was different somehow—...

edguarroso asked: I just wanted to say, thanks.

Submitted by delcielosecaen. **Trigger warning Dear blog, I promise that from now I’ll start writing on you every day I can, because we know we need each other. I need you to give peace to my heart, my mind and my soul and so, you need me to be filled with letters, stories and experiences that I lived. That’s what makes you interesting, you’ll have the life of a human in your virtual sheets....

Reason #46: Male entitlement to female bodies

The law to protect women’s sexuality from forcible violation and expropriation defines that protection in male genital terms. Women do resent forced penetration. But penile invasion of the vagina may be less pivotal to women’s sexuality, pleasure, or violation, than it is to male sexuality. This definitive element of rape centers…upon one way men define loss of exclusive access....