More Reasons You Shouldn't Fuck Kids

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June 2011

21 posts

“If the occurrence of rape were audible, its decibel level equal to its...”

– -Patricia Weaver Francisco If only pain could speak. (via letsleavenow)

May 2011

20 posts

Reason #45: Love -- my story

I wrote this for one of my Women’s Studies classes last semester. The assignment was to bring in sources from our reading into an eight-page paper, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. This seemed more important, more meaningful and real. I have written about my story before, and even about the same moments, but each time, it becomes more clear to me. More mine, and more honest...

If you're new to this blog, start here

So I spent some time looking through every post on this blog and compiling them into one list. You can access it through “The List” link in the navigation at the top. I’ve marked entries which I felt were especially important. Also, at the bottom of the page, I’m collecting responses from other people to remind us that we’re not alone. If you link someone else to...

fromtheashesiwillrise-deactivat asked: I just found your tumblr tonight and I am beyond inspired, Thank you so much.

findingbeautyinme asked: Your blog is amazing <3

Reason #44: the Almost Moments

So I have this friend, a wonderful girl who lives on the other side of the country. I’ve known her since middle school, when we both felt trapped and scared. We’ve never met in person, but I would say that she knows me better than anyone else in the entire world, and maybe I know her better than anyone else, too. We consider each other brother and sister— that’s how...

“REBLOG IF YOU ARE A SURVIVOR OF SEXUAL VIOLENCE, OF ANY KIND. WATCH AND SEE HOW...”

– (via strength2rise)

i need your help finding a name for this!

You may remember when, a few weeks, ago, I posted about how I had won some writing contests with some pretty nice cash prizes. Part of that prize, however, did not belong to me— because I won with writing about sexual abuse and abuse, I could not in good conscience use that money for stupid, selfish things. The money was not mine— it belonged to everyone who has ever been and who will...

Reason #43: Coming out is not all glam. And it...

I know that in my recent posts, I’ve put a lot of emphasis on awareness and how much we all need to come out with the fact that we are survivors of sexual abuse or sexual violence. This is, of course, extremely important. But it isn’t and shouldn’t ever be your first priority. Your first priority is YOU. Your feelings and your sense of safety and comfort should always be at the top of the list. ...

shareascare asked: i like your blog, please check out the first anonymous social network support group called shareascare.com and join a community like no other, made up of individuals going through similar things as yourself or become a friend/supporter of somebody that may really need your companionship, or simply help us spread the word about our message that no one has to be alone...thank you!

un-dynamic asked: I just read your entire blog from start to finish tonight & found you so inspiring. I just think you should know that I think you are so brave & I really admire you for this.

Reason #42: recognizing self-absorbed bullshit

When someone tells you to “just get over it”, it’s an entirely selfish act on their part. It means that whatever happened to YOU makes THEM feel insecure in their tiny little view of the world. It means that they care more about preserving that world view than ever trying to understand you or know your experience. Don’t listen to people like that. Just think that we...

Minor change to this site - visitor widget

So I added a little widget at the bottom of this page— it lets you see who has been visiting and where they are from. It’s anonymous, of course. I first saw this widget when I visited Butterfly’s original incarnation of this blog, Reasons You Shouldn’t Fuck Kids. Sometimes I would be feeling incredibly lonely, like no one could ever understand me. So I would look at that...

Employing the logic our society uses concerning...

bastardfromabasket: Anyone talking is asking to be interrupted. Anyone carrying money is asking to be robbed. Anyone eating is asking to choke. Anyone drinking is asking to be drugged. Anyone walking is asking to be tripped. Anyone with a face is asking to be punched. Anyone with a heart is asking for a heart attack. Anyone with arteries is asking for an aneurysm. Anyone not wearing a...

Reason #41: Turning twenty-one as a miracle

Today marks my 21st (I typed “12st” the first time) birthday. In the state of Kentucky, and in most places in the USA, that means I am finally of drinking age. It means I’m finally a “real adult”…whatever that means. I want to take this opportunity to consider other people—somewhere out there, those 1in4 and 1in6 moments are still happening. Somewhere out there, other people are having RYSFK...

Reason #40: Are our abusers as hurt and scared as...

It’s hard to believe that I’m already at Reason #40 for why you shouldn’t fuck kids. Four months ago, when I started this, this whole thing seemed daunting; i have this terrible habit of starting a blog, losing interest, and then never returning to it. It seemed a lot more likely with this topic, too…or maybe I am still here because it’s so important. Whatever it...

Reason #39: Strength in other ways

The other day, a friend of mine (who was also sexually abused as a child) told me about how she absolutely hates it when people knock on her door. It makes her feel like someone is going to come in and attack her. I feel the same way sometimes; I absolutely hate door-to-door evangelists and salespeople. In the same way that ants in my house can freak me out, so, too, can loud noises/bangs/knocks....

Reason #38: The $350 that isn't mine

In a life update a few months ago, I mentioned that I had entered a writing contest at my school with a manuscript of several poems— three of which were about abuse and sexual abuse. Well guess what? I won! I placed 2nd with my manuscript, with a prize of $300. I also entered two other contests— one where I placed first with $600, and another where I got runner-up with $50. In all,...

Reason #37: 1in4 and 1in6 moments

Last week, we had the first of two final readings/performances for my Intro to Creative Writing class (which I am the TA for). Like any creative writing class, there are always those moments when someone writes something that can be really daring and raw— writing that comes right from the center of a person’s pain or love or fear. When I first started learning about sexual abuse and...