April 2011
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Reason #36: fucking ants everywhere
Last Saturday was just another ordinary Saturday…except for the RYSFK (Reasons You Shouldn’t Fuck Kids) moment I had. Like any other day, I got out of my room and I walked down the stairs to get something from the kitchen, passing by the front door on my way there.
The front door that had a million fucking ants crawling all over it.
Earlier in the day, my girlfriend, Nicole, had...
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Reason #35: Disappearing for weeks at a time
Sometimes, it’s hard to write anything at all, really—it’s hard to even be me. That’s why I disappear for weeks at a time. It’s not because I don’t care or I don’t like you. No. Sometimes it is hard to even get to class when you have to walk through a broken-down neighborhood in a town full of people who have never seen someone who looks like me. People...
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Andrea Dworkin - I Want a Twenty-Four-Hour Truce...
If you don’t believe in the importance of this, then all you have to do is make a complete list of all of the women you know— friends, family members, sisters, cousins, mothers, teachers, acquaintances— then, every 150 seconds (because it is actually 2 and 1/2 minutes that a rape occurs, not the 3 minutes as mentioned here), mark their name off. Just like that—...
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Reason #34: "I-wasn't-sexually-abused" privilege
Let’s talk about privilege.
Usually when we think of privilege, it’s simple things like your parents giving the privilege to drive their car, or having the privilege to go to school or not go hungry. But privilege is much more than that— it’s about the everyday, ordinary things in our lives that we take for granted. A black person, for example, cannot go to the mall without...
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Reason #33: Internalized homophobia and fear of...
In previous posts, I have mentioned that my abuse was at the hands of my older brother. A month ago, I posted my paper on gender-queered survivors and how homophobia and male/female gender roles force survivors into compromising situations. In short: what does a man or a boy do when he is abused by another man? What does he do when he is abused by a woman? What does a woman or a girl do when she...
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Why you should be a Feminist, especially if you...
First of all—Feminism is not about hating men, cutting your hair short, becoming a dyke lesbian, or becoming a woman firefighter or bodybuilder (not that there is anything wrong with that). Unfortunately, like many other social movements, feminism has been seen mostly for its extremists. There have been women who believed that total separation from men was the way to go— but that...
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Reason #32: Being alone is very, very scary, OR:...
Stars - Changes
Throughout all of the posts I’ve written, one theme has slipped out: the idea that I am afraid of being alone. Okay, so maybe that’s a common fear; pretty much everyone and anyone in this world is afraid of that.
Part of the reason I freaked out so much when my ex made me feel like I am damaged goods is because hearing that made me feel as if I was so different, so...
