[trigger warning: sexual abuse, rape] I can't...
Survivors of sexual abuse and rape don’t owe their abusers niceness. In fact, they don’t owe them anything. At all. There are some things that drop you out of the category “decent human being who deserves my respect”— rape and molestation are among those. If a survivor is nice or “polite” to their abuser, it should be seen as an act of sainthood. Because...
Reason #88: Revenge
[trigger warning: discussion of child sexual abuse, child rape, incest] So Thanksgiving weekend came and went, and some interesting things happened. I haven’t talked about it much on this blog, but in the past few weeks I’ve decided that I want to take an extra semester before I graduate, as well as part-time status next semester. PTSD and all of this other fucked up stuff is too much...
Anonymous asked: I've always felt like the thing with the neck has a lot of possible reasons. I mean, it's a majorly understandable trigger. And a friend always says, "If you really feel like something happened, it most likely did." With the intensity you remember it, the situations you describe, sounds very real, this small detail that hurts to no end. Even if your mind is making it up,...
Anonymous asked: How old do you consider a "child"? Like, what's the oldest you'd say child abuse could happen to someone?
Anonymous asked: [trigger warning: child-on-child abuse] I just felt the need to say something: the perpetrators of sexual abuse aren't always adults. Many communities forget that. The boy who molested me was 6 and I was 7. So for many years, I felt like I'm not a "real" victim; all you ever hear about kids' sexual experiences is: a) adults/older children molest younger kids; or b) kids...
brokenpinky asked: I am so, so glad I'm not alone in being too terrified to drive. I somehow managed to get my license, but I panic horribly every time I try to drive. My heart starts racing if someone even MENTIONS me having to drive. It doesn't help that my Mother enjoys rubbing my face in it. "Well, you wouldn't have to problem of people bailing on taking you places if YOU could drive...
un-dynamic asked: I was just catching up on the last few reasons and you not be able to drive is just.. GAH I LOVE YOU SO MUCH xD I put off learning to drive as late as possible. I went and got my license when I was nine months pregnant. But thats besides the point. My mom tried to teach me to drive and it was the exact same thing. I couldnt stand her and it made me hate her so much, so i saved money and took...
Reason #87: the trigger of no origin
[trigger warning: discussion of triggers, child sexual abuse and manipulation, incest, repressed memories] The problem with surviving child sexual abuse is, it’s not something that you can easily understand or comprehend all at once— there’s barriers of age, brain maturity/development, manipulated perspectives by police/counselors/adults/siblings, repressed/partial memories, and...
Reason #86: today is my brother's birthday
[trigger warning: child sexual abuse, rape, incest, suicide] It is my brother’s birthday. It is all over Facebook. I don’t know why I am even “friends” with him on Facebook. What am I supposed to do? Do I leave the cursory, socially nice message on his wall? Do I call him up and tell him that although he fucked me up I still love him and he’s still family? Do I just...
Anonymous asked: Re reason 84: A KY state id card, which does not require/permit driving, costs $15 and is valid for four years.
ataraxyn asked: I am not a survivor of sexual abuse. However, I have so much respect for you and others who are able to share their stories and inspire others to do so. You all are my heroes.
Reason #85: Penn State
[trigger warning: child sexual abuse, rape, rape culture, victim blaming] I don’t want to write about this topic. I really don’t. But I feel like I should say something about it. It is always shocking to me— but not surprising— how we so easily rush to the defense of people like this. It’s like we forget that children are still people, or that people who are...
Reason #84: I can't drive
[trigger warning: sexual abuse, ableism related to ptsd and triggers, brief mention of death and suicide] A few weeks ago, I went to a friend’s birthday party. We had dinner at this restaurant, and then afterwards, the birthday girl decided that she wanted to go to a bar. So we found one, and when we got to the front door the bouncer asked for our IDs— and I showed him mine, but it...
infantille asked: Very inspiring blog. I loved that last post where you talked about how people think children were 'asking for it' - it's so fucking easy to BLAME A CHILD for something that they had no control over.
randombylani asked: Why don't you email your choir teacher a copy of that post? Its articulate, eloquent, it explains so much... i think it would totally do the job. Or print it out and hand it to him if you want to see the response maybe? I think you should tell him, personally. Sorry about all the unsolicited advice.
[trigger warning: rape, sexual abuse,...
fromonesurvivortoanother: Okay. I am going to try to write through this. [If you are a survivor of incest, please tread very carefully. If you are having trouble keeping yourself together in general, i strongly recommend skipping over this post completely.] Read More Reblogging this from my other tumblr.
Anonymous asked: please help me, please
Reason #83: Eight years later, and I still think...
[trigger warning: victim-blaming, self-blame, discussion of coming out, mention of sexual abuse, rape] As I’ve mentioned before on here, there have been times when I miss class or work because I just feel really messed up and I can’t bring myself to see other people. Last week, something like that happened and I missed choir for what is probably the fifth or sixth time this semester....
vatnsliti-deactivated20111124-d asked: Whoever that anon was who just talked about their brother & pressing charges, so utterly proud, I understand completely and can relate to you huge amounts. If you ever want to email me or anything I am here always and I understand what you went through, if you ever feel alone or you can't find anyone to talk to, as I often do, I'm here.
Anonymous asked: Hi :) I just wanted to say that I relate so much to everything on this blog and it makes me feel so much less like I'm some guilty fuckup. My brother raped and molested me for around 3 years. My mother blames me. I'm finally pressing charges. Thank you for showing me strength. <3
medialiteracy12 asked: thank you so much. for this blog. for what i've read so far, i'm on #44. <3