Anonymous asked: I'd like to talk to you about a topic which might be triggering for you. I'll put the topic at the bottom of this post so if yo aren't interested you can just skip that part. I've followed this blog for a while and have read everything on it. I don't know anyone IRL or online who could really understand what I'm going through, or who might be able to give me advice...
Reason #82: Fat Sexual Abuse Theatre
submitted by fiestacolours. [trigger warning: sexual abuse, fat shaming, body shaming] Here is a little something I just started thinking about, something that crept up two days ago. I am an actor. We are taught our bodies are not our own. They belong to the audience, to the director, to the character, to anyone but ourselves. I struggle with this. I mean, I get it on a greater level, and it...
Anonymous asked: Um, hello. Thank you for this blog. I do not feel so alone or so frightened anymore, because what happened to me is not unique. The post about doppelgangers was particularly poignant. Thank you <3
Reason #81: Doppelgangers
[trigger warning: sexual abuse, rape, incest, trigger— seeing my abuser] As I’ve mentioned before, I’m in my school’s Concert Choir. It’s one of the ways I unwind and learn to love myself. Last weekend, we had our yearly Fall concert. The first performance on Saturday went great, but during our Sunday concert, something happened. My brother was sitting in the front...
seihasamagicbox-deactivated2012 asked: I just read through a rather large portion of your list. As well as...well... most of this. A great deal of this applies to me in some form or fashion, though often under different circumstances, and I just wanted to thank you for writing all this out and having the strength to talk and take stock of all the affects everything's had on you.
nadrawj asked: I mean to a certain extent you might have been right - that's only one example - I go to a Jewish private school so most of the families are well off and fit your description :/ - I dunno I just - Judaism isn't necessarily a guarantee of that.
nadrawj asked: I'm confused as to why your ideal family would be Jewish :/. Jews definitely get hated on a bunch - and I know some pretty dysfunctional Jewish families. Like, one of my close friends in a Jewish family has none of the other things you said you would consider ideal.
Reason #80: "Normal"
[trigger warning: racism— whiteness, ableism, sexual abuse] By now, I think it is obvious that I am not normal. Not in any way. I mean, [insert list of labels here]. I am pretty fucked up, i guess, if that’s what you would call it. I am not “normal”— whatever that means. But I guess I am kind of “well-adjusted”— whatever that means. I’ve...
Anonymous asked: I noticed that you said in your Why Elephants? section you said: "Sexual abuse is one of the greatest but least acknowledged social problems in our culture". Do you believe that sexual abuse is worse than other types of abuse someone might experience?
mindyshabibti-deactivated201111 asked: Thank you for this blog. I was abused by my older brother, too, and I just... I've never read anything like this before where I felt understood. And it's easier for me to be kind to myself when my experiences are mirrored in other people -- I would never blame you or hate you or anything like that, so I can't as easily do those things to myself when you were in the same position as...
i'm going to go back and add trigger warnings to...
I’m sorry I haven’t done this sooner. When I first started writing this blog, I figured that trigger warnings werent necessary since the blog itself was very explicit about the subject matter. But now I realize that tumblr works a bit differently, haha. Also, each individual post is different from the next— and we should all be able to pick and choose when/what we are ready to...
On The Other and sexual abuse
[trigger warning: police neglect, sexual abuse, abuse] I’ve been wanting to write a post on this for awhile now. A few months back, I wrote a post on why Feminism is really awesome for survivors of sexual abuse. But I haven’t really talked much about it since then. Most of my posts after that have been centered around events in my life rather than some of the really critical thinking...
Survivor Vocabulary →
Something I’ve been writing, on my other tumblr, about different terms and ideas that are central to sexual abuse and healing from abuse. I’ll add more when I feel necessary.
More Reasons You Shouldn't Fuck Kids: Reason #79:... →
[trigger warning: rape culture/denial bullshit] thebluesader: ssspoon: What is a trigger? A trigger is anything that might cause harm or distress to someone who has been the victim of some form of abuse, assault, or otherwise traumatic experience. What triggers a specific person is highly individual. However, a reference to, textual description or visual/audio… tl;dr This is why I don’t...
Reason #79: List of things that have triggered me
What is a trigger? A trigger is anything that might cause harm or distress to someone who has been the victim of some form of abuse, assault, or otherwise traumatic experience. What triggers a specific person is highly individual. However, a reference to, textual description or visual/audio depiction of the same form of trauma the victim has previously experienced is very likely to be...
Anonymous asked: Thank you. Thank you for this blog. Not only is it telling people it's alright to speak out but those who aren't ready to speak out about their experience can read this and know that they're not alone. I hope I have the courage to speak out about my abuse one day.
Anonymous asked: I checked Wikipedia this morning and the featured article was about the tenth anniversary of the first episode of Degrassi: TNG. Just seeing this mentioned flooded my memory and triggered the fuck out of me. In the second part of the episode, Emma meets her online boyfriend who turns out to be an older man that wants to rape her and film it. While everything turned out okay in the end, I'm...
Anonymous asked: I just found this site, during the majority of my recovery I never looked for help outside of my own head. It's kind of a wonder I managed to be this far in recovery.
Reasons why having a statute of limitations on...
fromonesurvivortoanother: [trigger warning: rape, sexual abuse, child abuse, rape culture] Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can and does happen years and even decades after the fact. A person may be able to shrug it off and be a functional member of society, but then a life event can trigger PTSD. In my own case, getting into my first sexual relationship triggered PTSD symptoms (panic...
Anonymous asked: I submitted something quite a while ago and it hasn't been posted. I know you post rarely, but how long is your waiting list? It's been more than a month since I put my poem in.
sacredorscared-deactivated20111 asked: I noticed the submit button on this blog but I wasn't sure if that was enabled for discussion or for others to submit their sexual assault/rape stories/poems/etc. Are people allowed to submit their own experiences?
labrujaja-deactivated20120219 asked: Oh my goodness I love this blog so much. It has helped me pn my road to recovery. You are wonderful!
Reason #78: Not knowing the basic rules of life
I am searching for this quote, but I can’t seem to find it at the moment. I am pretty sure that it’s from one of my favorite books, What Happened to Lani Garver. But google is not helping and the paper copy is at my mom’s house. In that book, there is a scene in which one of the characters talks about discovering new emotions. Like they used to not laugh. but as they started...
[trigger warning: pedophilia] Not every pedophile or abuser fits our stereotype...– Me, on the Understanding Pedophilia tumblr.
un-dynamic asked: you know your new post about hyper awareness & flashbacks? I have that too, & i live in a really small town where everyone gets really into halloween, so even by the corner store, there's this group of 5 or 6 scarecrows with pumpkin heads and out of the corner of my eye, I always think it's a group of big burly men, every time, and my heart & breathing race and just, I feel...
Reason #77: Hyper-awareness and flashbacks
[trigger warning: PTSD, sexual abuse, flashbacks] So Halloween is coming up, and in my neighborhood, some people have already started putting up decorations. Normally I really love holiday things like this, but this year, it’s a little different. One apartment down the street has a scarecrow at the door. I pass by this every day on my way to school, and in the corner of my eye it looks...
Anonymous asked: if you transgender, does that mean you identify as a woman?
Anonymous asked: Is there a place where i can read the entire story of what happened to you?
Anonymous asked: I was molested as a child and even though I have no attraction to children I am terrified that my boundaries somehow aren't normal, I don't know exactly what the statistics are but isn't it that most sex offender are victims of abuse? have you ever felt scared of anything like that. I know it's stupid just like to see what your opinion is
Reason #76: Pictures of the Past
Submitted by fiestacolours, a good friend of mine. [trigger warning: sexual abuse, flashbacks] My mother just turned 40 a day ago. I love my mother, she is my best friend and I would do anything for her or my father. I spent a few weeks asking my mom what she wanted for her birthday and praying for hints from her to lead me in the direction of a perfect present. She kept her mouth shut for...