More Reasons You Shouldn't Fuck Kids

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December 2010

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Reason #7: We are defined by our junk

A few weeks ago, I was working on a cover letter for a writers’ advance/retreat I wanted to attend in the summer. In the call for applicants, one of the questions they listed was “tell us something about yourself”. I never really know how to approach these questions. What makes me…me? Then I think about it, and all I get a big laundry list of “junk”; survivor...

Reason #6: Rape jokes

There’s an extremely privileged class of people who, because of their wealth or social standing or gender or race, are able to say things like “why can’t we just be colorblind?” or “I’m a human being, not some label”. For the majority of us who are not white men, however, this is impossibly patronizing— it’s a big lazy fucking excuse to not...

Reason #5: Permanent inequalities

Anyone who has ever been raised by anyone can understand that when we’re kids, we put our parents or guardians on pedestals. Jean Baker Miller, in Towards a New Psychology of Women, describes two types of unequal relationships. The first is the temporary inequality, such as parent-child, teacher-student, and so on— a relationship where the inequality is temporary. Here, it is expected...

I now understand why women are angry.

I also understand why patriarchal men in power paint angry women the way they do. If you’re a feminist— no, if you’re a decent person— you’re fucking pissed as hell because women and men are being fucked with, raped, molested, abused, and hurt at ridiculous fucking rates. Odds are you have a vested interest in the issue too, because it happened to you. Then, the...

Reason #4: We have to grow up before we're...

**WARNING: may be triggering** I only started this two days ago, but already I feel like it’s helping to write about these things. It’s strange to see how many ways I’ve self-sabotaged and stopped myself from expressing my feelings. As I keep writing this, I know that my mother will eventually read this. My mother did not perpetuate the abuse— it was my older brother. ...

Reason #3: Because we become inconvenient...

**WARNING: This is very triggering** So I recently joined internet community of Reddit. In sum, it’s an up/downvote kind of place, similar to Digg. It’s like any other internet community, really. People talk about video games, make memes, jokes, and other silly things. People get into internet arguments, and sometimes they collaborate and discuss and discover new things. Oh...

Reason #2: You get into arguments about...

I’m a mumbler. If I’m walking with a friend, I say something, and he doesn’t hear me, he says “what?”, so I say say it again, but once again he doesn’t hear me, so he says “What?”, but really it’s just some insignificant shit that I’m sayin’, but now I’m yellin’ “That tree is far away!!” —Mitch...

Reason #1: Because it stays our entire lives

I’m starting this because of this blog. To be honest, I’ve been avoiding this topic for a very long time. But I got into an argument with my mom yesterday and you know what? It was right fucking there the entire time, just hiding because I let it. I’ve been trying to avoid it, but it wanted out. You know how Dexter calls it his Dark Passenger? That’s it. But that’s...